Raising a kid is the most rewarding and yet very challenging part of being a parent. Getting your child to talk is even harder when the kid is growing especially teenagers. I noticed that talking to a two year old is much easy and comfortable compared to older kids. Toddlers are not ashamed to ask questions, relevant or not, because they are just starting to know the things that surrounds them. While teenagers have some sort of idea how things are and most of the times they are the one exploring things and putting it into action rather than asking questions. Which I think is more dangerous since teenagers are already interacting with different people, they have the tendency to pick up wrong ideas or even be influenced by bad people.
In this very complicated world that we have today, it is tough to explain things or issues to kids so that they will clearly understand what are the things we try to convey. Especially those issues like, sex and sexuality, relationship, alcohol, divorce, drugs, addiction, and many more.
As a parent we have a strong desire to teach our kids and in a way influence them with our ideas of what we think is right and wrong. It does not mean that we will dictate them in their way of thinking, but we would love to guide them while they are growing until they reach the right age or maturity that they can decide on their own and be smart enough to speak for themselves.
It is our responsibility to create an open and comfortable environment for our kids to talk. If they think that as parent you are defensive in some things they would like to talk, I don't think they will even start a conversation.
Starting to talk with your kid at an early age is also a good idea. At least they would feel that you are treating them like adult. Stop giving them limitations on what's to talk to and what's not. And when they started to talk please listen. Don't filter the things that you would like to hear from them. Whether it is a bad or good idea, just listen. From there, you can communicate your values to your child. You can tell them that it's not a good idea or the things that they're talking about is somewhat different. That way, both of you has an open channel for communication.
You can use daily chance to talk with your kid. It may be at dinner time or at a lunch date. So every time that you think you have the chance to talk. Don't hesitate to start a conversation, you can even use your own experience to teach your child or to make him interested since you are the topic.
There are some kids who are not really conversationalist, or should I say, there are some kid that doesn't speak up that often about their thoughts, at this point be patient with your child. If on first try it does not work, try it the second time with different attack or i must say "style".
In this very complicated world that we have today, it is tough to explain things or issues to kids so that they will clearly understand what are the things we try to convey. Especially those issues like, sex and sexuality, relationship, alcohol, divorce, drugs, addiction, and many more.
As a parent we have a strong desire to teach our kids and in a way influence them with our ideas of what we think is right and wrong. It does not mean that we will dictate them in their way of thinking, but we would love to guide them while they are growing until they reach the right age or maturity that they can decide on their own and be smart enough to speak for themselves.
It is our responsibility to create an open and comfortable environment for our kids to talk. If they think that as parent you are defensive in some things they would like to talk, I don't think they will even start a conversation.
Starting to talk with your kid at an early age is also a good idea. At least they would feel that you are treating them like adult. Stop giving them limitations on what's to talk to and what's not. And when they started to talk please listen. Don't filter the things that you would like to hear from them. Whether it is a bad or good idea, just listen. From there, you can communicate your values to your child. You can tell them that it's not a good idea or the things that they're talking about is somewhat different. That way, both of you has an open channel for communication.
You can use daily chance to talk with your kid. It may be at dinner time or at a lunch date. So every time that you think you have the chance to talk. Don't hesitate to start a conversation, you can even use your own experience to teach your child or to make him interested since you are the topic.
There are some kids who are not really conversationalist, or should I say, there are some kid that doesn't speak up that often about their thoughts, at this point be patient with your child. If on first try it does not work, try it the second time with different attack or i must say "style".
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